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Thursday, August 20, 2015

Confessions of a Cop Lover

So, you’ve all seen the media lately.  Officers shooting “innocent” victims: You know, all of those “upstanding citizens” that are being picked off one by one by the cops.  Oh, and NEWS FLASH: All white cops are racist.  And incase you live under a bush, you know that the police are corrupt, dirty, law-breaking jerks who are arrogant and cocky and will shoot anyone when presented the opportunity.  You did see all that too, right?

I’m married to one of those dirt bags and I just can’t believe what an asshole he is.  I mean, what gives him the right to arrest the guy armed with two knives that threw a lit gasoline filled bottle at him?  And how could he possibly have the nerve to shoot at someone trying to run over one of his fellow officers?  And WHY THE HELL did he get a Silver Medal of Valor for carrying victims out of a house engulfed in flames?  Oh, and when he was out with a buddy of his for dinner and a drink, he TOTALLY deserved to get blind-sided attacked by some chicken-shits while PEEING by a group of guys that recognized him as a police officer.  He was black and blue and completely swollen.  And while he does everything wrong because all people are OBVIOUSLY law-abiding citizens, he has to come home and be a husband and father and son-in-law too.

We cannot afford a home; not one that would pass inspection at least.  And say it did pass inspection; we wouldn’t have much of a yard because land is very expensive here.  Renting is the unknown, but it is less scary the smaller your family is.  My Dad lives with us and a three bedroom is way beyond our means to buy.  We might have the mind to give our daughter a sibling, but if we can’t afford a home that is safe and has a yard for them to play in, to chase butterflies, grow a garden, play catch, plant a tree, then we will forever remain renters with one child.  My husband is the only full-time worker and I work part-time from home doing marketing.  Our fortunes are many: we have our health, food in the fridge, a roof over our heads, and our daughter does not have to be put into a daycare.  Yet what gets me is this:

The hardest working man I’ve ever met is stereotyped, criticized, harassed, and hated every single day of his life.  Why is this amazing husband, incredible father, wonderful son-in-law, exceptional employee slandered on a daily basis?  Why because he wears a blue uniform and a badge of course!  It turns out that this good guy is perceived as a bad guy thanks to all of the media outlets that focus on the mistakes of a couple of officers or the few bad eggs in departments NATION-WIDE. 

I try really hard not to let the media outlets get to me.  In fact, I don’t even watch the news and I’ve began blocking the bigamists on Facebook.  Still, information seeps through somehow, (probably mainly through my Dad who likes relaying every police related news story to me… Still love you Dad).  When I hear it, I just want to shout and scream these words:

“YOU IDIOTS!  You always hold the military in such high regard… Those people that are keeping you safe by fighting a war overseas that doesn’t make a lot of sense, while you bash the officers protecting you from some of the craziest people of all… your neighbors!  The amount of corrupt people in this nations police force is no greater than the amount of corrupt firefighters, corrupt service members, corrupt teachers, corrupt office officials, corrupt priests and parish members!!!  So please… take away the 1 out of 10,000 negative stories you can dig up and create mass controversy with and put up the easy millions of life-saving stories that are going to paint the more accurate picture of what police work entails.  Why do I ask this of you?  Why do I BEG this of you?  Because officers are second-guessing themselves now and losing their lives for it.  Officers are being shot rather than shooting because it “might not” be a gun the person is pulling on them and they could be the next “trigger happy” cop all over the news.    

Kids always pretended to be cops and robbers… but why would they pretend to be cops and robbers?  Because cops ARE the good guys who are out protecting complete strangers and getting the “robbers”, (like the heroes in a story, except this is a real story).  I fear that with all the negative media coverage, our children will perceive police officers to be villains while robbers will become the “victims”.  This is already creating riots against officers; what will it do to future generation’s perception?  

All I know is that we will have many talks with our daughter about what it is Daddy does and how hard he works for our family so that there is no confusion if she catches a glimpse of the daily news.  When he's working obscenely long and unpredictable hours on a case, or he's filling out the endless paperwork that's attached to his job, or he's arresting someone who was drinking and driving and killed a family and can't make her dance recital, I will hug her and tell her again and again that he wishes more than anything that he could be there.  I know it might not make sense to her why he's spending his time with others and not with her, but when he gets home after seeing a child her age who has died and he hugs her until she won't let him hug her anymore, I hope she knows that her Daddy is NOT the bad guy, but instead a selfless man who will do anything for his family... and for complete strangers.

I took this picture almost two years ago.
It's CRAZY how time flies.


PLEASE SHARE THIS IF YOU AGREE!  Let's start spreading the message about what police life is REALLY like and show our support to officers.

Disclosure:  These are all my own opinions.  I also am very grateful to our military service members and appreciate every single one of them who keeps us safe.


12 comments:

  1. This is so true. It's been two years since my daddy was killed in the line of duty. It's hard enough living the life of fear and worry for your officer. Then to lose him, to have your world shattered. But that was easier for me than to see how the media shapes this war on police. I wouldn't ask them to be biased toward law enforcement, but I sure wish they would be neutral and show RESPECT for a profession that so few people understand and appreciate.

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    1. I'm so so sorry about the loss of your father! I hope that justice was served by the person who took him away from you, (although I know that it will never take away the pain). I've feared it every single day my husband, brother, and uncles have put on their uniforms. Neutral is a great way of putting it, and I agree with you 100%. Thank you for your wonderful input and I hope you were able to share this with your friends as together we can try to spread the "reality" message vs. the message of messed up media.

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  2. You did a great job of capturing what it is that we (cops ) do . I just retired after 26 yrs and its a disgrace what has happened in this country to Americas finest . All this hatred and rioting , all based on a lie of "Hands up" in Ferguson . The media is totally corrupt as well as most politicians and its a disgrace the way they have painted millions of officers with the same brush . As officers hold back and just slowly answer radio calls it is the same people that hate them who will suffer the most by their own kind .

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    1. First off, thank you for your service! You are a real hero in my book. It truly seems like the past 5-10 years has just been a downward spiral of what is fed to us on the TV and internet vs. what goes on in the real world. All the stories of my husband in this post really happened, and he's been in the Department 16 years less than you, so I imagine you have quite an amount of stories. Another thing I fear is how officers may be treated or terminated without a thorough investigation to avoid the pressure from the media... OR how they will be thoroughly investigated for rightful actions to appease the media. Congrats on your retirement, and may you have many stress-free years that you certainly deserve! :) Hopefully you were able to share this post to spread the message from an officer's wife's perspective.

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  3. This is absolutely true. I work for the police dept as a clerk and to be honest I used to think the same way as the world thinks today. Not until I was on the flip side of the coin and have to work alongside there officers that I realized they do a lot of work. Times have changed and to see these law enforcement officers get criticized because of a couple of rotten apples in the bunch shows how small minded people of this world is getting. I'm sure your perspective is one of many and that different from my perspective being a co-worker of officers but still alike in many ways. It's tough I'm sure to be a wife of one and I give you and the rest of the spouses out there props for being the backbone to our law enforcement officers. It not only takes a strong willed and level headed person to become an officer but it also takes a patient and compassionate spouse to come alongside them and support them. I hope that people read this and learn to RESPECT our law enforcement officers. I'm going to share this!

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    1. Thank you so much for your support for the wives too and thank you so much for sharing! You are speaking up for those who cannot speak up for themselves. I commend you for being open-minded to a change of thinking when you got to work alongside officers. :)

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  4. Well said... I know and worked alongside your husband and he is a damn good cop.

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    1. Thank you! And thank you for having worked alongside of him and for doing what you do, (or did). I don't get to see him in action, so it's nice to hear he's a damn good cop. I know he sure works hard. :)

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  5. Thanks for sharing! God bless the Law Enforcement of this nation. The division in this country must end. We need to stand up for what is right. NOT for the agendas of political parties and the media.

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  6. So true, your blog. My prayers for you and all other police & their families are said every day. I am so thankful for my retired policeman husband and all of our blessings everyday. Although he is not in uniform working the road anymore, he is still considered a "target" to some. For the life of me I cannot figure out why so many Americans in this day & age are so F'd up! What has happened to our country and the "american dream?"

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  7. Thank you from a fellow MPD wife. This hits the nail on the head in every way.

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  8. I've got a life long friend who was a Detective 1 in the community I grew up in located in N.Y.. He gave me the opportunity to understand the challenges of the job. I am and always will be thankful to the men and women of the MPD here on Maui for the consistently good work they do and the dedication they show to us the citizens they serve. Mahalo!!!

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